The rest of the week passed uneventfully. I spent my days with Pumala and his family. Ours was a reciprocal relationship based on selfish needs. For myself I enjoyed the status of Pumala's company in the village. For Pumala he had the attention of an ostensible academic and a westerner.
In accepting me, feeding me, and housing me, Pumala's family made me think there is no bond like the one created when living so closely off the land.
Pumala's daughter became, as I knew she would, an unrequited love. Is it too strong a word, love, for a woman I spoke to only indirectly? I once suggested it might help her English to take over for Malu as my translator. Her parents never hinted on her hand in marriage, a chance for America, an opportunity to send money home.
I lost the need to keep up the pretense of an academic. I had little desire to go beyond the village but one day I agreed to follow Malu to a site. Malu fled Cambodia and it's because he's not from a participating village that he is an outsider here. The marriage was allowed to an outsider. His wife is his link to this place but he has no role in its society.
We go to a digging site. The earth is soft. The day is hot. I'm out of water from the hike. Malu knows a clear spring. He leaves and is gone a long time. I begin to suffer exhaustion before he returns. It seems my body must work harder to stand straight against the pull of gravity. He followed the spring to the source from underground and it's a good thing bc there was a dead animal in it. Then he had to hike to another one. Here is the canteen. I take it and pour some out in my hand to check its cleanliness, then I splash my face. I drink. I have found nothing. He suggests I can try another support stone on the mostly crumbled and lost wall. I find something nearly right away. The ground was undisturbed there, but did Malu know that was the correct spot from the start while I exhausted myself?
I don't know where Malu is going to take this, but it's at least enough to go on for now.
At the festival that night after the exhaustion I meet all of Pumala's ten children. Pumala has a father in law who makes no secret of his intentions toward his brother's wife.
This is Pumala's little world. He boasts of sex with his wife and sometimes with the women of his village. This has upset the men of his village in the past bc their brothers are now married to girls of his village, which accounts for giving Pumala a wide berth, somewhat, bc he is also respected. He's respected bc the elders respect him as an athletic champion. He brings prestige with his victories. Pumala would like to gain some western recognition. He enjoys sharing his skill with me as my instructor as much as he enjoys sharing it with an audience as a performer. He promotes his sport which in turn promotes himself as the best practitioner. In my world he is trying to better me personally. Pumala is a hedonist and sensualist who wrings every last uncouth drop out of life.
At Malu's prompting, Pumala gives me lecture on skill of his sport at festival. I would rather be talking to his beautiful daughter, a template of beautiful youth. Malu knows, Pumala is oblivious.
Pumala and his wife grew up in different villages and speak different languages. They learned some of each others' and made up their own words for things they both understood. The way Pumala talks to his wife is to say do I have to hit you? His wife says, I hope not with a smile.
The girl, the daughter, wants to marry a boy from the same village as her dad bc he will speak English and be more worldly. Ignoring the value of tradition to them, this gives me hope. She speaks four languages: mother's, father's, regional lingua franca, and english.
The adventure comes in throwing oneself off whichever burning building one must escape from. The landing is an ending. My adventure was the journey that brought me to Borneo. In the furthest reaches of humanity there was selfishness, agenda. It limited my experience. Experience is gained through people, and I've preferred their voice on paper. I am in Kuala Lampur awaiting my lift to the airport.